Optimists are very good at what NLP calls Reframe. Whenever they experience an adversity, they immediately describe it to themselves in such a way that it loses its ability to trigger negative emotions and feelings of helplessness. The ability to reframe any event productively is a skill that everybody can learn.

It is simply taking different viewpoint on the situation, generating healthier and more productive response. Ok, read these 5 rules of NLP Reframe to increase your optimism:

1. There is no failure
Optimists know that there is no failure, only feedback. Some people say that it took almost one thousand experiments for Thomas Edison to finally invent a light bulb. Edison was interviewed by one French reporter who gave him a tricky question: “Mr. Edison, how does it feel to fail 999 time?” He smiled and answered:” I have not failed 999 times. I only found 999 ways of how not to do a light bulb.” If Thomas Edison allowed himself to be discouraged by what some people call ‘failure’ he certainly would not be able to establish General Electric empire!

2. Challenges and opportunities for growth.
There are no problems, there are only challenges they need to overcome. They know that every challenge is an opportunity for them to grow and achieve great things. They are able to see themselves in the future and feel great after they grasped this opportunity and moved a step forward.

3. There is a solution.
Focusing on problems and worrying about them takes away heaps of much needed energy for their solutions. Everybody has a choice to re-focus on solutions. This can be done by simply asking ourselves, “How can I solve this?”

4. You have all you need to get what you want.
Pessimists tend to blame others if they do not feel great and are not achieving what they want. They blame other people, economy, the way they were brought up and other external conditions. Optimists know that there is no blame, only responsibility. They accept full responsibility for their feelings, thinking, actions and results. This acceptance of full responsibility allows them to choose where they will be tomorrow.

5. There is only our own perception of truth.
Optimists know that there are no facts or truth, only interpretations of the truth. They are able to accept other person’s ‘model of the world’ and lead meaningful and highly productive conversation with them.

If you adopt these five rules as your personal ‘truths’ you may find a much greater sense of optimism and happiness.

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